"IF YOU ARE NOT ANGRY, YOU ARE NOT PAYING ATTENTION.ENOUGH IS ENOUGH"
Abusive Expectations - Makes impossible demands, requires constant attention, and constantly criticizes.
Aggressing - Name calling, accusing, blames, threatens or gives orders, and often disguised as a judgmental “I know best” or “helping” attitude.
Constant Chaos - Deliberately starts arguments with you or others. May treat you well in front of others, but changes when you’re alone.
Rejecting - Refusing to acknowledge a person’s value, worth or presence. Communicating that he or she is useless or inferior or devaluing his or her thoughts and feelings.
Denying - Denies personal needs (especially when need is greatest) with the intent of causing hurt or as punishment. Uses silent treatment as punishment. Denies certain events happened or things that were said. Denies your perceptions, memory and sanity by disallowing any viewpoints other than their own which causes self-doubt, confusion, and loss of self-esteem.
Degrading - Any behavior that diminishes the identity, worth or dignity of the person such as: name-calling, mocking, teasing, insulting, ridiculing,
Emotional Blackmail - Uses guilt, compassion, or fear to get what he or she wants.
Terrorizing - Inducing intense fear or terror in a person, by threats or coercion.
Invalidation - Attempts to distort your perception of the world by refusing to acknowledge your personal reality. Says that your emotions and perceptions aren’t real and shouldn’t be trusted.
Isolating - Reducing or restricting freedom and normal contact with others.
Corrupting - Convincing a person to accept and engage in illegal activities.
Exploiting - Using a person for advantage or profit.
Minimizing - A less extreme form of denial that trivializes something you’ve expressed as unimportant or inconsequential.
Unpredictable Responses - Gets angry and upset in a situation that would normally not warrant a response. You walk around on eggshells to avoid any unnecessary drama over innocent comments you make. Drastic mood swings and outbursts.
Gaslighting -A form of psychological abuse involving the manipulation of situations or events that cause a person to be confused or to doubt his perceptions and memories. Gaslighting causes victims to constantly second-guess themselves and wonder if they’re losing their minds.
I love this post because it’s so informative and detailed and a lot of people don’t realise they do this shit either because they aren’t physically harming someone. It happens in all kinds of relationships too, not just romantic ones. I really think it deserves tons or attention and should be read.
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Oh my god youre straight? I had no idea. You seem normal to me. Did you know that Sara is straight to? You two should totally hook up. I cant believe youre straight. You could be my straight best friend. We could go to football games together. Itll be so much fun. So like how long have you been straight? Youre whole life!? No way.
Courtney Love confronts a guy in the audience who threw a beer can at her in Australia on August 15, 2014.
“They can’t see me, sir. They can’t see me because they have a preconceived impression. They look at this and think: ‘Oh, you poor bastard, you’re homeless. Here’s a cup of coffee. See you later.’ This carriage is a rolling library. I’ve got calculus, psychology, sociology, and the ancient histories of the Babylonians, the Egyptians, and the Phoenicians and a bunch of stuff they don’t teach at Harvard and MIT. But they can’t see me, sir. They live in a dream world and walk around with their chests all pumped up: ‘Oh, Harvard alumni. Harvard endowment. Money, money, money, money.’ Who is on their money, sir? Who were the presidents who are on their money? Who were they when they were alive? That’s right! Slave owners. Today, it’s no longer a Black and White thing—it’s a class thing. Everybody is in slavery, even those who think they are free. They took the chains off your hands and put them on your mind.”
i find my cosmic insignificance reassuring
the stars don’t fucking care who i am or what i do
i owe the universe nothing
i exist on my own terms
#when existentialism becomes comforting rather than horrifying